My Baby Hates Cuddles

For the longest time, I felt like my baby didn’t like me. Please tell me I’m not the only one!

For the first year of baby CJ’s life, he hated being cuddled. Actually, he still kind of hates it.

Whenever we tried holding him like a baby, he would squirm until he was sitting upright. I didn’t get much cuddle time with him when he was an infant because, by the time he was 3 months old he was already crawling and being an independent baby, he did not want to be contained.

One day, at around 14 months of age, he came to me and gave me a hug! That was the best day ever! I finally felt loved by my baby. I know he already loved me, but to actually have him come to me for a cuddle, was really something else. A few months later, not only did he give me a hug, but I also got my first kiss from him!

I swear, I wanted to cry of happiness!

Sometimes it’s hard and frustrating when you do all these things for those little humans because they become your life, and to have them ignore you or push you away when you’re trying to cuddle them is often heartbreaking and you know, and tell yourself that they are still developing and trying to understand feelings, but sometimes it’s hard not to feel unloved.

I was worried about my baby not wanting to be close to me, so I googled a lot and read many threads of people in the same situation. If you are going through this, just know that it is normal and like any phase, it does pass. Keep in mind that your baby does love you, but they are still figuring out how to express it in their own way.

Although baby CJ is just starting to understand how hugs work, I will embrace every moment he wants to come to me and cuddle!